Wednesday, May 26, 2010
Life and the unexpected
A little while ago one of my dear friends wife sent a note via facebook to tell me that he was diagnosed with an in operable tumor on the right frontal lobe of his brain. With the option of surgery gone they are going to try radiation and chemo to battle this but it does not look good. They figure it will just give us all a little more time to see him and spend some more quality time with him. This is one of the greatest people that I know. The love that he has for his wife and two sons is love that no one can describe. Yet I sit here writing about his life as we know it ending. His wife has said that there is already memory loss and that he is confused and irratable, he knows there is something wrong but is not quite grasping the situation. If he knew that while I am writing this the tears keep flowing he would scold me so bad. I know for a fact that he would tell me to get over it he has and that he is moving ahead and to not get caught in his draft but to follow and enjoy the time that he still has. Some how I know this is what has to be done yet at the moment it is hard to accept. The prayers are for the family to find the strength to continue and to prepare for the inevitable wether it be a week or year. I hope that god gives me the strength to help in any way I can and to savor each and every moment of the friendship that will soon come to an end. And that is the hardest thing of all. Acceptance...
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Oh Cindy,
ReplyDeleteI am sitting here in tears reading your sadness. It is so horrible to have to go through this. I have lost my sister in law and brother in law as well both from cancer. It is such a horrific disease that I hope someday will be cured. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Just enjoy the good times that you can while he is still around. Try not burden yourself with the sorrow, but fill your world with the happiness that he brings you.
Cheryl Saunders
I agree with the doctors that at least you have some time to spend with him. I get told I am rather cold about death but I am not really. When someone is suffering from something that is putting them in constant pain for me I think I would rather them be out the pain even if that means I will lose them for a while. I have endured chemo and radiation twice for cancer and it isn't something I would wish on my worst enemy, not to mention a loved one. I have lost two friends to a sudden unexpected death this past year. And I have come to the conclusion to make the most of my time with all of my friends and family while I can so I cannot tell myself I coulda, shoulda, if only... I know for me if cancer reappears my family is not to fight me in refusing treatment. So he is a brave soul to go through this for all of you. Bless him for his thinking of others. I wish I could hug you and tell you all will be fine, because really it will. Depends on your view of "fine."
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